Unspoken Rules: The Conflict Over Masculinity and Femininity in Modern Society
In a recent post on Psychology Today, author John G. Cottone explores the unwritten rules, expectations, and norms (RENs) that shape boys and girls differently during childhood. A psychologist and historian, Cottone posits that these RENs have been used to justify traditionally masculine and feminine roles in society, leading to a decades-long conflict over who should govern certain environments.
The conflict originated with the Technological Revolution of the 19th and 20th centuries, which replaced men with machines for laborious and dangerous tasks. As women entered the workforce, they began to express discomfort with traditional masculinity-based RENs, calling for changes that were more fair to them.
Today, the percentage of women in the workforce has grown significantly, with nearly half of all workers identifying as female. However, this shift has created tension over whether men or women should govern certain environments. Some argue that traditional masculinity-based RENs have been effective and should continue, while others contend that changes are necessary to provide a more equitable society.
The ongoing conflict highlights the challenges faced by both men and women in balancing individual identities with societal expectations. Cottone argues that true progress can only be made when both sides come together to coalesce around a new set of RENs that combines the best aspects of traditional masculinity and femininity.
As the debate rages on, it is clear that the unspoken rules that have governed society for so long are under scrutiny. Will we find a way to reconcile our differences and create a more inclusive and equitable society? Only time will tell.
The author's call to action reflects the urgent need for collective conversation about the unwritten rules that shape our lives. By engaging in this critical discussion, individuals can help shape the future of our societal norms and ensure that everyone has an equal opportunity to thrive.
Read Cottone's full article on Psychology Today for more insights into the ongoing debate over masculinity and femininity in modern society.